Virtual Offerings
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Do you feel shame about your orientation, your body, or your sexuality? Do bad or traumatic experiences such as rape or abuse keep you from enjoying sex or dating or entering a relationship? Do sexual myths and misinformation cause you to be afraid of exploring and enjoying your sexuality? Do you need someone to listen to you without judgment?

I offer virtual Sacred Intimacy appointments over Zoom or Skype; I create a safe and nurturing environment for exploration. I work with all levels of experience, from nervous beginners (including heterosexual men who may be questioning their orientation) to experienced hands looking to learn something new—and really, no matter how much anyone knows or has experienced, there is always something new or different to learn or try.

Understandably, dealing with some of these issues can bring up feelings of vulnerability. If I feel your issues might require the help of a doctor (to diagnose and prescribe treatment) or a mental health worker (such as a psychiatrist or psychotherapist), I will let you know, for I am not either, and you should not view my work as a substitution for such care.

An exercise If you aren’t comfortable opening up to me—or anyone—about what’s on your mind or in your heart, one exercise you can do is to sit quietly at home, for a period when you will not be disturbed, and just speak aloud, and not just thinking to yourself, what you wish to express. You can also do this by writing your thoughts on a piece of paper, which you can shred or burn afterwards. By bringing your thoughts into the physical world, via spoken or written word, you give your thoughts and feelings credence. You will find just saying what you feel, even if you’re alone, can bring energy to you, because now you’ve made it part of the real world where action may take place.

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Virtual sessions may include the following:

Role Play
Not to be confused with the role play described on the Kink Roleplay page.

Role play can help deal with past hurts or issues by giving you the chance to learn different responses. Remember, you are always in charge. If role play becomes too painful or uncomfortable, just say so and we will stop or moderate the activity. At the same time, however, I invite you to share those feelings with me instead of merely asking to stop, but ultimately you decide how much you would like to disclose.

Practicing Communication
One of the myths about relationships is that love and sex take care of themselves as if by magic: good sex happens automatically because one is “in love”. But even the most intuitive partners are not mind-readers. Perhaps you’re shy about asking for what you want; some people have difficulty just saying words like “cock” or “asshole”. But learning to do so comfortably is an important step towards communicating and achieving your desires.

... it is in no way “wrong” to feel what you feel and to want what you want. Emotions are an expression of our emotional truth, and truth cannot be wrong. Nor do they need to be justified. They just need to be felt.

“The Ethical Slut” by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

Masturbation Training
Wouldn’t it be great to feel ecstatic pleasure for an hour instead of five minutes? What’s the hurry? Training places the emphasis on giving, receiving, and prolonging pleasure, to yourself and for yourself, instead of just racing to get off. And don’t judge your “performance” by what you see in porn (see Sex Myths). Even if you have erectile dysfunction or are unable to ejaculate, you can still enjoy masturbation.

Erogenous Zone Expansion
There’s more to sex besides penetration and ejaculation, and more pleasure zones on our bodies besides the genitals! Erogenous Zone Expansion can be about discovering pleasure from what the participants bring to the table—or the bed. And while aging or disability can limit some avenues of pleasure, there are many others for you to discover.

Dream Interpretation
What usually occurs in dreams is neither predictive (dreaming about winning the lottery) nor what is often found in dream interpretation books (dreaming about a white horse is not always about sex). The symbols that occur in dreams are unique to each dreamer: after all, some people think strawberries are sweet and tasty, and some people can’t stand them. During a dream interpretation session, rather than me just telling you what your dream means, I help you unlock the significance of your own symbols and guide you towards divining the meaning of your dream.

Duration ▶	30 mins	each addtl 30 mins
▼ Offering
Virtual Offerings	$45	$20

For more information on how to make an appointment and prepare for a virtual meeting, visit the Virtual Appointments section on the FAQ page. Then contact me to get the ball rolling!